I Yelled At My Baby
Yelling at Your Baby? You're Not Alone.
This is my most-read blog post of all time.
So if you’re reading this, please know: you are not alone.
Thousands of exhausted, overwhelmed moms have landed here feeling broken, ashamed, and wondering if they’re the only ones.
You’re not.
This post was updated on April 9, 2025 to include even more information, support, and resources for those navigating postpartum rage, yelling at your baby, and postpartum anxiety support. If you’re here because you lost your temper and yelled—keep reading. You’re not broken, but something needs to change. I can help you with that.
Have You Ever Yelled at Your Baby?
I mean really yelled?
WHAT THE FUCCKKK?!
STOP CRYING?!?
WHAT DO YOU NEED?!?
STAY STILL!!!
Yeah. Me too. More times than I like to admit.
I couldn’t handle the sound of his crying. I was parenting alone, completely touched out, sleeping in 45-minute chunks, eating like shit, and had zero time "off." (And by “off,” I mean time off from thinking and worrying and being needed. I never wanted time away from my baby, I just needed time away form worrying.)
These aren’t excuses.
They’re explanations.
I was struggling with postpartum anxiety. I was also neurodivergent and didn’t know it. And I was pushed to my absolute edge.
And I yelled. At my baby. My rainbow baby—the one I conceived through IVF, who I wanted so badly.
What kind of mom does that?
That’s what I used to ask myself.
What a shitty fucking mom.
That’s what I’d tell myself. And then I’d spiral—mentally berating myself, swearing I’d do better next time.
But I never really did. Because I didn’t have support. I didn’t know what I was dealing with. I didn’t even have a name for it. And I didn’t have anyone I trusted enough to tell.
If someone had looked me in the eye and said, "Tiff. I know you don’t want to be feeling like this. Let’s figure out what’s going on."—maybe I’d have gotten the help I needed sooner.
So if you yelled at your baby, listen up:
You’re not alone.
Something is wrong.
It’s not your fault.
Something needs to change.
What Is Postpartum Rage?
Postpartum rage is intense, explosive anger or irritability that feels out of character—or uncontrollable. It’s often a symptom of a larger issue, like:
Postpartum anxiety or depression
Sleep deprivation
Sensory overload
Unsupported caregiving
Unrecognized neurodivergence (ADHD, Autism)
You might:
Snap or yell easily (at your baby, your partner, your dog, yourself)
Clench your jaw or fists without realizing
Feel like you’re constantly on edge
Cry after your outbursts
Feel ashamed and alone afterward
According to research, up to 1 in 7 moms experience postpartum rage—and that number is most likely low because most of us are too ashamed to talk about it.
But hear me: it’s more common than you think.
And you’re not a monster. You’re not a bad mom. You’re probably just overwhelmed, under-supported, and burned TF out.
Why Do I Keep Yelling at My Baby?
Let me take a guess:
You have no time to yourself, no real rest, no time to decompress.
Your partner thinks they’re helping but they’re not really pulling their weight.
You’ve been Googling “I yelled at my baby” in incognito mode
You’re worried you might be dealing with a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder.
You’ve got sensory needs, unmanaged ADHD or Autism, or trauma that hasn’t been addressed.
You're not yelling because you don't love your baby. You're yelling because you’re drowning. You’re yelling because something’s off—and no one has helped you name it, plan for it, or fix it.
Let’s change that.
The Truth About Postpartum Depression, Anxiety, and Rage
Postpartum depression can look like:
Feeling numb, hopeless, or disconnected
Crying often or feeling like you can’t cry at all
Struggling to bond with your baby
Feeling like you're failing or your family would be better off without you
Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy
Feeling like you're just going through the motions
Postpartum anxiety can look like:
Racing thoughts
Constant worry about the baby—even when everything seems fine
Trouble sleeping even when baby sleeps
Feeling jumpy, overstimulated, or panicky
Fearing something bad will happen and feeling like it’s your job to prevent it at all costs
Add postpartum rage into the mix, and now you’re also:
Snapping quickly over the smallest things
Feeling out of control or like a ticking time bomb
Yelling and then immediately regretting it
Feeling ashamed, confused, and like no one would understand
Isolating yourself because you’re scared of what you’re capable of
But you are not broken.
Your brain and body are in survival mode. Your nervous system is fried. You’re trying to parent from a place of complete depletion. This is not a character flaw. This is a crisis.
And it is not your fault.
Even better — it doesn’t have to stay this way.
You deserve support. You deserve a plan. You deserve to feel like yourself again. You deserve to be the mom you want to be. Let’s figure out what’s going on and start building your way out—together.
What You Can Do Right Now
📥 Download my free guide: Top 5 Signs You’re Experiencing Postpartum Rage
You’ll learn what’s actually happening, why it’s not your fault, and what steps you can take to feel better—starting now.
👩⚕️ Talk to someone—a therapist, a friend, a coach (like me). Don’t stay silent.
💬 Say out loud: “This is not who I am. This is not the mom I want to be. I need help.”
You deserve care. You deserve support. You deserve a plan.
How I Can Help You Stop Yelling and Start Healing
I created a high-touch support package for moms exactly like you—moms who are done yelling, done spiraling, and ready for a real plan.
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Because sometimes what you need isn’t therapy or meds—it’s a strategy and someone in your corner.
What’s included:
✅ Postpartum Profile & PMAD Risk Assessment – Figure out what’s really going on.
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✅ Weekly Check-Ins – So you never feel like you’re alone.
✅ Access to Office Hours – Ask questions, get feedback, feel supported.
✅ On-Call Support for 6 Months – Real-time help when you’re melting down, overwhelmed, or need a lifeline.
This is personalized, nonjudgmental, expert support from someone who’s been in your shoes—someone who understands the struggle and has not only made it through but is now a certified perinatal mental health specialist ready to help you do the same.
➡️ Click here to learn more about Everything But the Pills.
This Is Temporary
You are not defined by your worst moment. You are not a bad mom. You are a mom in a broken system with no village.
But you can feel better. You can enjoy this.
📥 Download the free guide
📅 Book a consult with me
You are not alone. You will survive. And you deserve to enjoy this.
XO,
Tiff
