Postpartum Planning & Support for Neurodivergent and Anxious Moms

burn the mainstream motherhood playbook.

It wasn’t written for you.

You need self-care! Have you tried therapy? Maybe you need meds. A date night would help. It takes a village.

I call BS. If it were that easy, you'd already be doing it.

The advice I’d get when I voiced my frustrations with how my life was going made me ragey. No one understood. Or maybe they didn’t care. None of what they suggested worked (I tried) because it wasn’t what I needed. What I needed was a complete mindset shift—a new way to manage my life and a new perspective on the value of my work as a mom. I needed tools, strategies, and systems I would stick to—things that were easy, actionable, and doable for my AuDHD brain. But what I needed didn’t exist. So I created it.

Build a Life You Love

Postpartum Strategy Session

Gimme 90 minutes, and I’ll hand you a plan. Bring your biggest postpartum challenge, and we’ll tackle it head-on—together.

    • A focused, 90-minute strategy call to address specific postpartum concerns.

    • Tailored advice and actionable strategies based on individual circumstances and goals.

    • Follow-up email summarizing key points discussed and additional resources.

    • Call recording

On-Demand Mentorship

Need someone to validate, offer perspective, and tell you what's normal—and what's not? I'm your girl—like a doula in your cellphone.

    • Weekly office hours for live Q&A and support.

    • Weekly check-ins via text, voice notes, or video messages for ongoing encouragement and accountability.

    • On-call support for immediate questions and concerns.

The UNLEASH Program

Break through your biggest postpartum challenges and create a plan that works for YOU with 6 months of strategy and mentorship.

    • A personalized postpartum plan tailored to the unique needs and quirks of the client.

    • One-on-one mentorship sessions to discuss the plan, address concerns, and adapt strategies as needed.

    • Access to digital resources and tools, including planners and worksheets.

    • Ongoing support via text, email, or voice notes for questions and encouragement.

     

    Kickoff Call (60 minutes)

    • This is when we review your postpartum profile.

    • We'll identify your specific needs, preferences, and goals.

     

    Strategy Development

    • I will develop your Individualized Postpartum Plan based on the information I gather from your postpartum profile, our initial call, and any other communication between us.

    • Your IPP will focus on practical strategies, tools, and resources for a manageable motherhood experience.

     

    Reveal Call (60 minutes)

    • Schedule one week after the initial call.

    • Review the personalized postpartum plan in detail.

    • Address any questions or concerns.

     

    Ongoing Support for 3 months

    • Weekly Office Hours:

      • Access to weekly office hours for additional questions and support.

    • On-Call Support:

      • Unlimited support via text, email, or video message during specified hours.

    • Regular Check-Ins:

      • I will check in weekly via text message to see how things are going.

     

    Final Check-In Call (60 minutes)

    • Schedule at the end of the 6-month period.

    • Review and assess the postpartum experience and progress.

    • Discuss any adjustments needed for ongoing support.

Let’s Design a Life You Can Manage — And Enjoy.

Hi. I’m Tiff.

After more than a decade of struggling with anxiety and rage tied to my postpartum experience—and living with undiagnosed AuDHD—I’ve built a life that I love.

And I know you can, too.

Ready to take the first step in doing the mom thing on your terms?

Have a question? Not sure what you need?

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I was completely blindsided by my postpartum experience. I couldn’t grasp the idea that motherhood meant being constantly needed by someone every minute of every day for the rest of my life — that’s how it felt at the time, anyway. No time alone. Always worried about the next time he’d need to nurse or nap, wanting nothing but to have an hour alone but if I had it I couldn’t relax anyway, so I never even bothered trying.

So instead of being the connected, happy, and calm mom I’d imagined, I was barely hanging on by a thread and not really enjoying much of any of it.

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Paid leave in the United States is a privilege, and if you're one of the lucky ones to live in a state that offers paid leave or work for a company that offers it, be grateful. At the time I’m writing this, only 12 states and Washington, D.C., have implemented paid parental leave programs.

The postpartum period is an insanely vulnerable time for new parents, especially for new moms, and without the proper support—which we do not get here in America—we find ourselves struggling to heal physically, adjust to our new roles, learn how to breastfeed, while sleep deprived, and, on top of all of it, we get to stress out financially. On top of it, for most people in a partnered relationship, it's the male partner who goes back to work sooner than the female partner; she ends up, by default, dealing with all of the mental, physical, and emotional labor of parenting and household management. It's a f*cked-up system, and it needs to change.

What is PDA Autism and What Does It Have to Do With Postpartum Anxiety?
What is PDA Autism and What Does It Have to Do With Postpartum Anxiety?

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a profile of both autism and ADHD, where any kind of demand—no matter how small—feels like a loss of control. It’s not that we’re intentionally avoiding things; it’s that our brains are wired to feel panic when something is expected of us. And in postpartum, where demands are endless—feeding, changing, soothing—it’s like overload on every level. For moms with PDA, this can quickly lead to postpartum anxiety because the constant demands feel suffocating, triggering that “fight or flight” response, and making it harder to cope with day-to-day life.

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Lanisoh conducted a survey a few years back and the while the majority of women who participated felt prepared to care for their baby, 92% said there were parts of the postpartum period they were not prepared for. Nearly two-thirds or more were unprepared for breastfeeding, mental health concerns, lack of sleep, and physical recovery.

We’re sold a story about the postpartum period by Hollywood and the global baby product industry, with a market size estimated at over 320 billion in 2023. The global market is dominated by guess who? Yup — the baby care products market in the US rang in to the tune of USD 25.5 billion in 2023.

Our expectations are way off, and that’s one of the risk factors for postpartum anxiety and depression.

It’s no wonder so many of us out here struggling with postpartum anxiety. Why so many of us hate our husbands after we have a baby. It makes sense that we’re erupting with postpartum rage over a spilled glass of water.  

My Personal Experience With Postpartum Anxiety
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Postpartum ADHD
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Many women live with ADHD without even realizing it, and the symptoms usually become more apparent postpartum. Oftentimes, ADHD symptoms are mistaken for or lead to anxiety. So let’s talk about it.

ADHD is most commonly associated with children (boys especially), but it can, and often does, persist into adulthood. Many women may have gone undiagnosed because the symptoms tend to manifest differently in females and can be mistaken as stress or hormonal fluctuations. The demands of motherhood can exacerbate these symptoms, which makes it important for moms to be aware of the signs.

Recognizing and Understanding Postpartum Rage
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The time for change is now.

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Unfortunately, in the US, there's been a historical lack of emphasis on this aspect of maternal health, and honestly, it's infuriating.

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Postpartum Yoga for Moms and Babies

In a past life, I was a yoga instructor and dedicated yogi. These days, my daily yoga practice often consists of deep breathing while sitting at a red light.

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Yoga can be a game-changer for postpartum moms and babies, with a focus on simplicity, mindfulness, and its benefits for moms with ADHD or sensory issues.

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I'm still scared every day.

My babies are 13 and 9 now and they are currently on an airplane without me. And I’m f*cking terrified. And I don't mean regular terrified.

I mean full-blown anxiety terrified.

Even with all the therapy and all the work I’ve done. Even with medication and meditation. I am still terrified.

Because I know that babies can die. And I’m sorry, but that’s terrifying.

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But the more I learn about my brain and the way it functions, the more pissed off I am that society convinced me that looking someone in the eyes is the only way to communicate what we need to say. I can’t believe I bought into this for so long.

But fuck that. Words written with intention hold just as much power as words coming out of the mouth. It’s time we dismantle the idea that speaking directly is the only "right" way to “legitimately” communicate.

Communication isn't a one-size-fits-all kinda thing, and if you’re like me and prefer to write it out rather than hash it out, I want to give you some permission slips.

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I’ve been noticing myself masking up around my own kid and around his friends. I find myself censoring myself so I don't get made fun of and told that I'm embarrassing or weird. And I couldn't figure out why it was upsetting me so much because I get it that all most kids are embarrassed by their parents at some point, but this is just hitting me really hard.

And I figured out why – it’s giving me flashbacks and insight into my life before I wore my own masks. It’s reminding me of what it felt like when I was a kid and began to realize I didn’t fit.

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Unmasking Anxiety: The Impact of Neurodivergence on Motherhood

If you’re anything like me, you’ve always been kind of on the fringe, living your life by your rules, but with a bit of self-loathing that you hid from the world.

And then motherhood happened and suddenly, you're grappling with these overwhelming and unfamiliar feelings of being out of control. It's like you're facing a stranger in the mirror every morning and you’re not sure how to deal with her and her big feelings. And the people you’ve known, the people who you’ve taught to see you how you could handle being seen are no longer there. Now there are new people and a new life and it feels like a lot.

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If You Yelled at Your Baby, Listen Up.

I was struggling with postpartum anxiety and didn't know it. I’m neuro-spicy, but didn’t know it. I was pushed to my breaking point, struggling on the inside so badly that I didn't even know I was struggling (if that makes sense to you, I’m sorry.) And I yelled at my baby. My rainbow baby who was conceived via IVF, who I wanted so desperately. I yelled at him.

WAKE HIS ASS UP.
WAKE HIS ASS UP.

Yes. WAKE HIM UP. Because it is not okay that you’re the only one waking up at night. It’s just not. It doesn’t matter that you’re breastfeeding. It doesn't matter that he has to work tomorrow. It doesn't matter how hard it is to wake him up. It doesn't matter what kind of an asshole he’ll be when you do wake him up. Just wake him up. Because it’s not okay that you’re the only one waking up at night.

Something I’ve Been Hiding.
Something I’ve Been Hiding.

I remember being so excited for my then-husband to get home because then I’d get a break and be able to take a shower but the break never came and rarely did the shower and I'm still not really sure whose fault that was but it doesn't matter now because we’re divorced.